裹足不前

      多虑是女生的天性。当女生听到这一句话时，往往她们都会以一大堆的理由来解释并对于这项说法非常反感。其实女生多虑不是她们的错，而是社会把她们塑造成弱势的角色。一直以来她们都被灌输“女人最怕嫁错郎”的想法，这么长久被熏染下，难免就会变得有所顾虑了。


      在这个分秒必争的现代环境，多虑就成了一种奢侈。深思熟虑是很多处事待人很重要的一节，可问题就出现在爱情本身是个很复杂的variable。多么聪明的数学家都没办法写出一个方程式来解答这个variable，因为爱情是建立在感觉基础上；而感觉是不能以任何理论和常识来做标准。


      有些事物是有必要去多听，多看，多经历多体会。但爱情还是不要去听别人的分享。当女生一直听见一些爱情里不如意的经历，再加上多虑的天性，她们就会变得裹足不前了。太多的“如果他这样，万一他那样”使她们没有勇气去打开心扉让爱情走进她们的生活。就算是小小的问题也很容易被放大，觉得好像没有解决的方案。


      所以小弟觉得恋爱就要勇敢，一定要积极往好哪方面看。不要一味的那么消极，再好的事情也会变质，觉得无趣了。那试问又怎样开开心心的牵手呢？




I will try to write in English too, but give me time coz I'm not using google translate haha

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There's a saying about memory never die, they just hide somewhere in your insanely huge capacity brain, waiting to lunged on you when you are least expecting, often during your most vulnerable period.


But not all memory are good one, there are some that you try really hard to get rid off but to no avail. Every now and then, those memories will come back. They are triggered by thing you see, hear, read, feel, and touch.


Sometimes, having a smartphone can be a curse. I don't mean the way it distract  you from work and you hooked onto Facebook for hours.


Just last night, I accidentally scrolled my phone to top of a message thread. As I go through some of the message, I realized what a scumbag I was. I am a firm believer of karma, so I guess I should man up and prepare for any retribution in the future.


Is funny how you work week in and work out, meet new friend and lose a couple of them throughout the process, but every once in a while you will still think and miss that person that was so close of to being your significant half.